6 Things Narcissists and Sociopaths Say to Make You Feel Crazy

Tonight I found another article that I’m sure was written about Brett himself – so I thought I would share it all with you all.

“6 Things Narcissists and Sociopaths Say to Make You Feel Crazy

Sociopaths are masters at influence and deception. Very little of what they say may be true in terms of facts, but they’re extremely skillful at making the things they say sound believable, even if they’re just making them up out of thin air.

Narcissists have an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others’ feelings, an inability to handle any criticism, and a sense of entitlement. 

At first, they often seem quite altruistic and innocent to the average person, but then they slow use their charms and manipulation to get just what they want, preying on friends, family, co-workers and lovers.

No one is exempt, and odds are, you’ve had to deal with at least one of these type of people at some point.

You may be able to spot them by these common phrases sociopaths and narcissists use to make you feel like you’re crazy.

You’re so sensitive – These people manufacture emotions in others. First they lay on the praise and flattery, then they’ll ignore you for days on end, just waiting for you to react. When you finally do, they’ll accuse you of being way too sensitive. They’ll insult, belittle, and criticize you, often in a joking manner, pushing your boundaries until you finally say something. It can easily turn a generally self-confident person into one that’s full of insecurity and self-doubt.

You’re just crazy, jealous, or … – When things begin to go downhill in a relationship, the person turns to name calling, saying “you’re just crazy,” or “you’re just jealous,” etc. Bringing you down justifies their own unhealthy behavior while making you feel insecure.

You’re over-analyzing everything – Sometimes we do read too much into things, but sociopaths and narcissists often purposefully do things to make you feel paranoid in hopes that they can make you think the problem is all with you, causing anxiety and then blaming you for being anxious.

You’ll never survive without me – Once you begin to realize the type of person you’re dealing with, they do everything they can to achieve control, controlling you by making you feel as if you’re crazy and incapable of surviving without them. 

You’re too dramatic – They’ll tell you you’re too dramatic, and they hate drama, but it won’t take long before you realize that person is bringing their own tornado of drama with them wherever they go. When their bad behavior eventually surfaces and you mention that you’re concerned, they’ll make you feel bad for reacting to it rather than addressing them problem, telling you that you’re being dramatic.

You misunderstood me – Misunderstandings are common in relationships, but sociopaths tend to do something known as “gaslighting.” Gaslighting is a term that refers to doing something that causes a negative reaction, and then blaming that person for their negative reaction, telling them that they didn’t understand what you were trying to say – or that they never said it all all.

Of course, you understood perfectly – they’re just trying to make you doubt your sanity.”

It amazed me that I was able to relate to each and every thing in this article! I’m sure there are a lot of others who will also be able to relate to this – whether with the asshole Brett or another person just like him.

There was hardly a day that I didn’t experience at least one of these things! I was made to feel like everything was my fault – and I actually BELIEVED that everything was my fault – which is the worst part – because I now realize that none of it was my fault!

One of his favorite tools to use against me was using my emotions against me – which then always tied in to him threatening to leave me. He would tell me that I was far too sensitive and often told me that I needed to get some “bitch” into me. This was usually when he had done something which had upset me and made me cry. I am an emotional person and have always been very sensitive. There is nothing I can do about it – it’s just the way I am. He made me feel like there was something wrong with that – all the while doing everything he could to make me upset and to make me cry – and then threaten to leave me because I was too “emotional” and “sensitive” and he “didn’t do tears”.

The reality is that he was never going to leave me. He was on far too good a wicket to leave me. But having me believe he might and keeping me so scared of him leaving me and of my life without him was his way of keeping me in check!

A massive positive from my relationship with Brett is that I have realized that there definitely isn’t anything wrong with being sensitive or emotional! In fact, I think it is much better than being an insensitive prick like he was! I am the way I am – and I like the way I am! If a person cannot accept me the way I am and want me to change then they aren’t worth having in my life!

At least I have now learnt what to look for in the future – so I’ll know what the signs are is a person like Brett ever crosses my path again and I can run away – very fast and very far!


Keep the Stories Coming

Ok, so we are up to the big 26 people Brett was cheating on me with – 24 girls and 2 boys! It’s just mind blowing – being cheated on with 1 person is bad enough – but 26! Is this asshole for real! This girl is from WA – so he gets far and wide!
Here is story number 26:
“I used to talk to countrybloke86 on POF. I only just recognised him when I watched the ACA video. I spoke to him a fair bit but was very suss about him because he would never send photos of his face and he could never really keep a story straight. He would only ever message me late at night and want to talk about sex. I personally found him to be a bore and felt like he just couldn’t hold a conversation. He said he owned a farm and I don’t own any property and I’m not very country so I don’t think I appealed to him very much
If I had of known he had a partner I would have told him where to go!
Good on you for exposing him!”
Thank you to all the people who have sent me their stories so far. PLEASE keep them coming! xx.

This Week’s AMAZING Stats

So I have just checked the Facebook page and website stats for the last week. And they are nothing short of amazing! I’m so happy that my message is still spreading and that the warning about Brett is getting out to so many people!

So, this week:

  1. A total of 147,108 views of the website and 71,141 visitors to the page – that’s 59,670 views 30,176 visitors since this time last week! ws1
  2. 1,000 shares of thehttps://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fstopconmanandfraudbrettjoseph%2Fposts%2F346485112364134&width=500” target=”_blank”>’My Story’ post on the Facebook page.WS2.jpg
  3. A total of 2,868 likes of the  Facebook page.ws3

Thankyou for all your help and support. Please keep helping me to stop Brett Joseph!


Email to Businesses

While I was cleaning out some of the things that Brett left here after I booted him I found a stack of business cards – and I mean 100+. So I decided to send an email to each and every one of those people or businesses – and this is what I said:

“I have recently found your business card (in a pile of 100+ business cards) while going through some things that my ex-partner, a man by the name of Brett Joseph, left at my home when I booted him out 3 weeks ago when I found out that he was a convicted fraud and a con man (amongst many other things).


You may know him or may have had dealings with him while he was using one of his many aliases – Brett Jay, Brett Jones, Brett Johnson, Brett Ingham, Brett Kepitis, Brett Inglis, Brett Williams, Brett James, James Brett, Reg Brett, Hunter Joseph, Hunter Baillieu, Brett Joseph Ingham Macdermid, Brett Armstrong, Brett Star, Brett White, Tom Waterhouse, Lockley Christian, Matty Johnson or many business names – King Ranch Australia, King Ranch Australia Pty Ltd, Joseph Pastoral, Joseph Pastoral Co, Hunter Valley Pastoral Co, B J Joseph, Brett Joseph Pastoral. He has, for many years, also claimed to be an agronomist for Bayer – which he is not and has never been.

The reason for my email is to warn you that his man is a criminal and a con artist and has left a trail of destruction across the country of  years. He has ripped off many businesses (mostly in rural areas) during that time and has also targeted young women (again, mostly in rural areas) and bled them dry too.

You can find more information by visiting https://stopbrettjoseph.com/, https://www.facebook.com/stopconmanandfraudbrettjoseph/ and http://aca.nine.com.au/article/9165953/love-rat-imposter.

If you have had dealings with this man then please either contact me or, if those dealings are in any way criminal, please make a statement with your local police. I understand that a lot of businesses write off smaller losses, but there is now an active investigation relating to this man, so it is vital that every criminal offence, no matter how small, is reported. If every business or person who has experienced some sort of criminal behaviour at the hands of Brett reports one criminal activity then I am certain that that there will be something the Police can do to bring him to account for all he has gotten away with for so many years.

If you are lucky enough to have not had any dealings with Brett then I would appreciate you forwarding this email to as many people and businesses as possible. If as many people as possible get the message about who Brett is and what he is capable of. They may have had dealings with him to report or it may help to stop them from becoming another of Brett’s victims in the future.

Regards, Daisy”


This morning I received a message from another girl who Brett was cheating on me with. It’s just like water off a duck’s back now  and every time I receive another message I’m just like “oh – another one”.

But this morning’s message takes Brett’s tally to 23 girls and 2 boys – THAT IS 25 PEOPLE HE WAS CHEATING ON ME WITH!

At best he was talking to them (not just normal talking – I mean inappropropriate or explicit talking – talking that you wouldn’t do with a person that you just wanted to be friends with). At worst he was sleeping with them. Now I understand that not everyone’s definition of cheating is the same as mine. For some people it is a purely physical thing. For others it is an emotional thing too. In my book, cheating is doing any or all of of these things when you have a partner. These are just some of the things that Brett did to me while we were together that I consider to be cheating:

  • Talking to other girls/boys on dating sites;
  • Messaging girls/boys and saying that you and your girlfriend are “rocky” and that you are “discreetly seeing what else is out there”;
  • Sending pictures of your appendage to other girls/boys;
  • Receiving compromising pictures from other girls/boys’
  • Telling other girls that you see them as your future wife;
  • Making plans to visit other girls/boys for dates and/or to stay with them;
  • Telling other girls/boys that you want to build a life with them;
  • Denying that you have a partner – even when specifically questioned about who I was (often he told people that I was his “good friend” or “office manager”);
  • Having active profiles on and actively using Tinder, gaymatchmaker, grindr, POF or any other dating website;
  • Actively seeking out other people on social media to be anything more than a friend;
  • Any intimate act with any other person – from kissing and beyond!

So – 25 in a month! Maybe by Christmas we will hit the big 100!


New Twitter Account

I have opened up a Twitter account to try to help spread my message even further. If you have Twitter please check out my account and follow me – @stopbrettjoseph


Watching The ACA Video From Overseas

Hi all,

I have had a few people contact me to ask how they can watch the A Current Affair story if they are overseas. Unfortunately the video on the A Current Affair  website can only be watched in Australia.

But it’s ok – I have fixed the problem! If you are not in Australia and would like to watch the video, you can do so by clicking here.


Website Updates

Hi all,

Just a quick note to let you all know that I have just finished updating the Other People’s Stories and Messages of Support pages of the website. So take a look if you haven’t already!


A Game Of Numbers

A summary of the story so far in numbers:

22 – The number of girls (that I know of) that Brett was cheating on me with (click here to view my definition of cheating);

2 – The number of boys (that I know of) that Brett was cheating on me with;

1 – The number of girls (that I know of) that Brett slept with while we were together;

20 – The number of girls (that I know of) who have a similar story to mine;

6 – The number of girls that I know for a fact have seen my page and have been saved from Brett as a result;

8 – The number of Australian states that Brett has had victims in (that’s right – all of them);

100 – The number of people who have contacted me with stories about Brett – mostly people who knew him at college or uni or while he was at school, through previous girlfriends or who were talking to him on Tinder or some such dating site but who managed to call him on his bull before he could do any damage;

14 – The number of people who have contacted me who have either been stalked by Brett or know somebody who has been;

20 – The number of aliases (that I know of) that Brett has used over the years – Brett Joseph, Brett Jay, Brett Jones, Brett Johnson, Brett Ingham, Brett Kepitis, Brett Inglis, Brett Williams, Brett James, James Brett, Reg Brett, Hunter Joseph, Hunter Baillieu, Brett Joseph Ingham Macdermid, Brett Armstrong, Brett Star, Brett White, Tom Waterhouse, Lockley Christian, Matty Johnson;

– The number of businesses or companies (that I know of) that Brett has been using over the years – King Ranch Australia, King Ranch Australia Pty Ltd, Joseph Pastoral, Joseph Pastoral Co, Hunter Valley Pastoral Co, B J Joseph, Brett Joseph Pastoral. Details of those businesses can be found by clicking here and here;

20,000 – The amount of money I estimate my relationship with Brett has cost me – but I’m still digging and still finding stiff (click here for more detail as to how);

2,677 – The number of people who like the Facebook page right now;

96,581 – The number of visitors to http://www.stopbrettjopseph.com since it was started; and

1 – Girl who is determined to warn everyone about Brett Joseph so he can’t get away with what he has managed to get away with for far too long!


Amazing Website Stats and a Message for Brett

If these figures from the website are anything to go by I would say that the word about Brett and my story are spreading like wildfire. Which (I hope) means that people from everywhere will recognise him for just who and what he is when he pops his head up from here on in. Which means that he will be hiding out at his parents house like the little rat he is for quite a while longer! I can’t even begin to thank you all for helping me to get my message out there. Without you all it would not be possible – and I am so very greatful to each and every one of you!

And a message for you Brett. If you or your parents think that this is just going to blow over and the social media and mainstream media stuff will die down – THINK AGAIN! I’m just getting started and have no intentions of stopping until everyone recognises your face and knows just who and what you are! I’ll do everything in my power to make sure you don’t do to anyone else what you have done to me and so many others for so long!