Tonight I found another article that I’m sure was written about Brett himself – so I thought I would share it all with you all.
“6 Things Narcissists and Sociopaths Say to Make You Feel Crazy
Sociopaths are masters at influence and deception. Very little of what they say may be true in terms of facts, but they’re extremely skillful at making the things they say sound believable, even if they’re just making them up out of thin air.
Narcissists have an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others’ feelings, an inability to handle any criticism, and a sense of entitlement.
At first, they often seem quite altruistic and innocent to the average person, but then they slow use their charms and manipulation to get just what they want, preying on friends, family, co-workers and lovers.
No one is exempt, and odds are, you’ve had to deal with at least one of these type of people at some point.
You may be able to spot them by these common phrases sociopaths and narcissists use to make you feel like you’re crazy.
You’re so sensitive – These people manufacture emotions in others. First they lay on the praise and flattery, then they’ll ignore you for days on end, just waiting for you to react. When you finally do, they’ll accuse you of being way too sensitive. They’ll insult, belittle, and criticize you, often in a joking manner, pushing your boundaries until you finally say something. It can easily turn a generally self-confident person into one that’s full of insecurity and self-doubt.
You’re just crazy, jealous, or … – When things begin to go downhill in a relationship, the person turns to name calling, saying “you’re just crazy,” or “you’re just jealous,” etc. Bringing you down justifies their own unhealthy behavior while making you feel insecure.
You’re over-analyzing everything – Sometimes we do read too much into things, but sociopaths and narcissists often purposefully do things to make you feel paranoid in hopes that they can make you think the problem is all with you, causing anxiety and then blaming you for being anxious.
You’ll never survive without me – Once you begin to realize the type of person you’re dealing with, they do everything they can to achieve control, controlling you by making you feel as if you’re crazy and incapable of surviving without them.
You’re too dramatic – They’ll tell you you’re too dramatic, and they hate drama, but it won’t take long before you realize that person is bringing their own tornado of drama with them wherever they go. When their bad behavior eventually surfaces and you mention that you’re concerned, they’ll make you feel bad for reacting to it rather than addressing them problem, telling you that you’re being dramatic.
You misunderstood me – Misunderstandings are common in relationships, but sociopaths tend to do something known as “gaslighting.” Gaslighting is a term that refers to doing something that causes a negative reaction, and then blaming that person for their negative reaction, telling them that they didn’t understand what you were trying to say – or that they never said it all all.
Of course, you understood perfectly – they’re just trying to make you doubt your sanity.”
It amazed me that I was able to relate to each and every thing in this article! I’m sure there are a lot of others who will also be able to relate to this – whether with the asshole Brett or another person just like him.
There was hardly a day that I didn’t experience at least one of these things! I was made to feel like everything was my fault – and I actually BELIEVED that everything was my fault – which is the worst part – because I now realize that none of it was my fault!
One of his favorite tools to use against me was using my emotions against me – which then always tied in to him threatening to leave me. He would tell me that I was far too sensitive and often told me that I needed to get some “bitch” into me. This was usually when he had done something which had upset me and made me cry. I am an emotional person and have always been very sensitive. There is nothing I can do about it – it’s just the way I am. He made me feel like there was something wrong with that – all the while doing everything he could to make me upset and to make me cry – and then threaten to leave me because I was too “emotional” and “sensitive” and he “didn’t do tears”.
The reality is that he was never going to leave me. He was on far too good a wicket to leave me. But having me believe he might and keeping me so scared of him leaving me and of my life without him was his way of keeping me in check!
A massive positive from my relationship with Brett is that I have realized that there definitely isn’t anything wrong with being sensitive or emotional! In fact, I think it is much better than being an insensitive prick like he was! I am the way I am – and I like the way I am! If a person cannot accept me the way I am and want me to change then they aren’t worth having in my life!
At least I have now learnt what to look for in the future – so I’ll know what the signs are is a person like Brett ever crosses my path again and I can run away – very fast and very far!